Office politics, gossips, rumors, backstabbers, etc — U probably so tired of overhearing them every where u go. Whenever how many times u move into new companies, new environments, new relationship„,there’s always “them”. Well, we all need drama in life rite..? :p
So based on my experience here in a place so far east XD — I learned that a click can be so meany!!! Seriously ruthless!! Devastating!
In case u guys study Communications back in college, u must be pretty much familiar with the definition of “Click”. Well, quoting from (Agarwala-Rogers, 1976) Click is a group of individuals who (at least) half of its members has relationship or know/familiar to each other. Click has the characteristics that each member know other members in formal or informal way of communicating.
In short, a click is a group of individuals united by common interest, values or proximity.
The problem is when a click, or we can just say a group has the same interests, values or probably way of thinking things….They might generate a generalized perception towards other people outside their click.
Levi has issues with Lee, who is not in one group/click. So Levi try to persuade other members at his group to hate Lee. Levi shared a long list of mistakes and negativeness of Lee to other members of the group. Since the group shared the same values, interests, proximity — They have the tendency to trust whatever Levi told them about Lee — Which is I think is cannot be blamed, simply because people trust those who they familiar with..Ya kan?
Nah masalahnya, Lee is can be innocent. But she was suffered from the general negative perception created by Levi and his group. A click in a organization play an important role to influence another clicks/groups reaction toward someone or something. That’s the dangerous of a CLICK, they can steward people’s perception in an organization that jeopardize someone’s reputation.
Sadly it happens in front of my own eyes and ears, to witness some people telling bad things about other people. I found it reeeeally NASTY and UGLY. Man, I dont even want to be in the spotlight. But hey, there’s always something i can take from this lessons of life :)
- Dont Talk someone’s infamy to other people — keep it to urself
- If u heard negative things about a person from someone else, keep it to yourself - Dont put another spice for a bowl of soup that already spicy & hot. Get it?
- Just shut the fuck up and move on — find another interesting/positive story to talk about. Mind our own biz!!
- Not taking sides by Not confirming their negativity — Like “She’s a bitch!” and ur sayin ” Oh tell me about it” XD — Best thing u can do is (again) just shut up and listen of what he/she tells u.
- Re-confirmed the story - Always get the story from both sides - Then define ur thoughts on the matter
Yes i Know, it is easier said than done. I admitted that I’m being meany bitchy as well. But I think that’s the beauty of life and being a human, right..? That u have time and the ability to learn from ur past mistakes and strive for a better self in the future. Hell I know it’s not gonna be easy! But I’m trying really :)). Being a neutral person in an environment full of ambitions, gossips and office politics leads u to the safest place, in which u still can get along with all of ur friends in an organization, that eventually smoothed and support ur own professional work. Compared to them who has issues will mostlikely spending most of their time to impose their frenemies. & got so many trouble in finishing their works.
So guys, be careful on what ur friend tell u about someone of something. Just because u guys “akrab” and shared the same interest does not mean everything he/she said is true. Punishing a person’s credibility just by listening to one source is UNFAIR. You dont know how a click/group can create such a negative impact to someone’s reputation in an organization. Imagine urself in that position.
OVer and OUt! — Bojonegoro, 30 May 2012 at 21:21 WIB.